Comments on: I must be a masocist or something

By: quietssoul

quietssoul — Fri, 11 May 2007 01:32:42 +0000

:grins: gotta agree with Jefferson!

On a serious note, you can try chewing gum, or suckers or anything to help with the oral fixation part. Other than that, take it a day at a time. Good luck!

By: Jefferson

Jefferson — Thu, 10 May 2007 21:23:57 +0000

You’re already smoking. You don’t need cigarettes.

By: Goldslut

Goldslut — Thu, 10 May 2007 13:36:39 +0000

Quitting smoking is hot! Good luck beautiful Goddess T!

By: Little Sister

Little Sister — Wed, 09 May 2007 22:12:43 +0000

I know you can do it!

By: David Tharp

David Tharp — Wed, 09 May 2007 20:49:07 +0000

One after thought:

Judging from your recent webcam photos you seem to be in a positive mood. I detect no pensive mood or troubled brow. The fact that you quit smoking is more again is more important than the fact that you earlier had reengaged this filthy habit. You might backslide, this is just you being human but once you realize that you’re the boss of yourself the problem will abate!

By: David Tharp

David Tharp — Wed, 09 May 2007 20:42:09 +0000

Masochist? Perhaps not. The problem could be that you’re an oral person whos is drawn to smoking(forgive the cliche) like a moth to a flame. Smoking pervides you(at a high cost) with oral grattification. As they say in a twelve step program: One day at a time.” Don’t beat yourself up today for the mistake you made yesterday.

PS Did you get my two tributes?

By: seraphin

seraphin — Wed, 09 May 2007 16:21:22 +0000

hey beautiful,
i understand right where you are. i never smoked but ive quit a lot of other things in my life that we can talk about if you like.
some things that help me and have helped me at difficult times are:
stay away from it. smelling it, seeing it, watching other people do it doesnt help, it makes it worse. and that includes on tv, in movies and advertisemnts. if theres any youre hoarding that you “forgot” about, get rid of them. completely get rid of them, when cravings are bad, its too easy to just pull them out of the trash. and try not to stare at them in the store.

when you want one, really focus on the worst theyve ever made you feel. that works for me big time. if i focus on what i loved about something, i just want it more.

though you can be committed to giving something up, you dont have to tell yourself - im never going to do that again. never sounds really fucking long when you want something. you dont have to beat yourself up with it. focusing on not doing it today is enough. its much easier to say - im not gonna do that today. and each day if you can commit to not doing it just for that day, that works out;)

i dont know what i think about god but i use the serenity prayer anyway. its the only prayer like thing i do, the idea of praying squicks me big time. i replace the god part with whatever feels like a bigger force than myself. sometimes i just think about the universe. its big. bigger and more powerful than me. and whatever is out there, theres energy at least - we know that. so sometimes i just think the serenity prayer at whatever makes the world exist.

be nice to yourself, talk to people, talk about how you feel, dont isolate, be gentle with yourself if you get upset, sometimes giving something up makes my insecurities freak out. they dont have anything to focus on. dont be afraid to ask for help when you feel shakey. and keep writing.

if you smoke, dont beat yourself up. it doent mean you failed and you should just give up. just keep moving forward. if you were dieting and you ate one thing you werent supposed to, it wouldnt be a reason to just go nuts and pig out. same principle.

let other people be nice to you. ask for what you need. find girls who will come up with ways to distract you;)

seriously im around by phone almost all the time. so call.
xo

By: Nix

Nix — Wed, 09 May 2007 14:44:59 +0000

I kicked a two pack a day ten year addiction.
If you’ve kicked it before you can again…I believe in you, too
Remember to drink lots of water.
Oh, and getting together with friends is a great way to help distract yourself from wanting cigarettes.

Hint hint.

By: Kathryn Tact

Kathryn Tact — Wed, 09 May 2007 11:08:12 +0000

Le suck.

And good luck.

:-X

By: heather

heather — Wed, 09 May 2007 04:50:39 +0000

Chantix. ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Varenicline ) My mother smoked 2.5 packs a day for 45 years, and had tried everything. It was created by a doctor who had smoked himself. Its fairly expensive but everyone who has tried it seems to sing its praises.

I have also heard that brushing your teeth a lot, and things cinnamon flavored will help.

Best of luck to you, you’re far braver than I.